Why You Need A First Date Exit Strategy

Red Alert!

You know the date is a dud almost as soon as he opens his mouth.

So, there you are looking stunning with a coveted table at the hottest eatery in town.

But after 25 minutes of hearing your date drone on about how his ex ate his soul, you wish you were home.

In your sweats. Watching tv. 

With a pound of chocolate.

Like most of us, you make a common fist date mistake:  not having an exit strategy!

Just as airplanes have an exit strategy in the event something goes horribly wrong, you need to have a plan should things go awry during a first date.

Think about it, most of  us know within the first 10-15 minutes into a date if we have a connection, and want to see that person again.

Yet why do we still continue to set up first dates in environments where either:

• we don't give ourselves the opportunity to  engage in conversation to find out more about the person

• we trap ourselves in expensive restaurants where we often feel obligated to continue the evening from hell due to a misguided sense of obligation - since the meal costs more than our car.

Creating an exit strategy helps relieve some of the enormous anxiety and awkwardness  which comes when a date doesn't work out.

The Dos And The Don'ts

So, in order to create you own dating exit strategy, here are some great guidelines to follow:

1. Avoid situations which don't give you a chance to talk.  Nix going to sporting events, concerts or the movies on a very first date. While these events can be fun, they don't give you the chance to break the ice and talk.
2. Skip the fancy restaurants.  99.5% of people arrange a first date at an expensive restaurant. However, realizing you two aren't hitting it off can mean sitting through an uncomfortable meal. Not a fun evening.
3. Meet for drinks or coffee. Arranging to meet for coffee or drinks is a fantastic way to begin a first date.  The setting is often very informal, which helps break the ice, and is more conducive to conversation.  In the event you two don't connect, it's easier to part ways with the expense of just a few drinks between you.
4. Be safe! If your date is someone you don't really know, never arrange for them to pick you up where you live. In fact, it's often wiser to meet each other at your destination separately.  So if the evening goes south, you are free to leave anytime you choose. Plus, you won't have the concern that this person knows where you live.  Important note:  always let a friend know where you will be - just in case.

Finally

Remember, going on a first date is very exciting! With that said, it is just wise to have an exit strategy in place when things do not go as planned. 

Equipping yourself so helps relieve much of the anxiety and awkwardness which comes with the territory.

So plan carefully, have fun and stay safe!

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5 Fun Date Ideas For Spring!

Ah Spring! For many it means days of warm sunshine, blooming flowers and moderate temperatures.

It also means it's time to shake off Winter, grab your partner, and get out of the house! 

Spring provides a great opportunity for you and your partner to enjoy fun, exciting and romantic dates in the Great Outdoors!  The following are five great ideas to help you brainstorm:

• Visit your local parks   Spring is a great time to take your special someone to see nature at its gorgeous best.  Drink in stunning natural vistas. Observe wildlife. Admire the flora, etc.  Plus, many parks offer various trails for walking, jogging, biking, etc.  Or, if there is a swing set available, sit and enjoy!
•  Visit a botanical garden  This idea is an extension of the first. However, botantical gardens offer a wider variety of exotic flowers, trees and plants you may not experience elsewhere. In addition, many botanical gardens offer other outdoor activities such as art exhibits, brunches and open air concerts. These events provide an ideal setting for a romantic date.
• Attend Open Houses  Close friends of mine introduced me to this idea.  Plan to attend open houses in your local area. Specifically look for those being held in historic neighborhoods, or those renown for their architectural style.  This is not only a great way to leisurely spend an afternoon, but you can also learn interesting information about your community.
• Go to a sporting event  If you are both sports fans, attend an open air event. For example, minor or major league baseball games can make for an exciting and fun afternoon.  Check with your local sporting venues for events and scheduling information.
• Watch the stars   On a clear, warm night go outside to star gaze. If you have a back yard, grab a blanket and lay under the stars.  

Hopefully these five tips will give you inspiration to grab your loved one and enjoy all that Spring has to offer! By the way, do you have any other Spring date ideas?  Please share them by commenting below!

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