Is Your Relationship In A Rut? - Here's How to Get Back On Track!

You love you partner. You feel safe and secure. Your needs are definitely being met in your relationship. However, over time, your daily routines start to feel well, routine.  Soon you begin to wonder where did  all of the spontaneity and excitement go in your relationship?

Couples often experience low points in their relationship, especially if there is undue stress present.  For instance, job responsibilities, the present economy, caring for children, etc. all can put additional pressures on relationships.

The main thing to remember is not to panic! This happens to the majority of us at some point in time.

Just as feeling sad from time to time does not mean you are clinically depressed, being bored with your partner on occasion does not mean your relationship is in a rut.

On the other hand, if you are finding that you have been bored silly every weekend for the last four months, then the chances are great you are in a rut.

If this is the case, here is an effective strategy to pull out of that rut and get on track.

With your partner make a list of all of the routines that you both find meaningful.  Activities such as having dinner together at your favorite restaurant  once a week or making love every early Saturday morning.

Then, make a list of all of the routines that you and your partner have grown bored with - then eliminate them. Now it is important to note that many activities that fall under this list may be necessary and can not be eliminated.

In such cases, brainstorm small changes that can be made to such activities to make them feel different.  Often the slightest changes can yield the largest results!

Next, make a list of  fun activities that you both may want to add to your routine. For example, start a new exercise routine together or serve as volunteers for a charity that you both feel strongly about.  This is a perfect way to spend more quality time together, have fun, and strengthen your bond in the process!

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Comments

[Nancy]

very nice suggestions..it is really nice if both of you want to work things out and are open to these suggestions.

[Terez]

Thanks for your comment Nancy! Question: What strategy has been most effective for you whenever you've felt your relationship has gotten a little too routine?