How Flying Blind May Improve Your Love Life
Terez 
The Dreaded Fix Up
The blind date. Being "fixed up." Those very words have sent tremors of dread through many a single person.
If you are single, more than likely a well-meaning friend or family member has offered to play matchmaker for you at some point.
Of course, you politely decline and discourage their efforts because blind dates are just a bad idea. Right?
You avoid blind dates because it is a complete stranger you are being asked to meet, and you do not want to be placed in a potentially awkward position.
But when you stop and think about it - are blind dates that much different than arranging/accepting "regular" dates? On a blind date, often you have never met or spoken with the person you are meeting.
The Dating Dilemma
However, when you arrange a date with that cool guy from the grocery store, your relationship with him is very superficial at that point.
You will not decide if you have any real chemistry until your first outing. How is a blind date much different?
Yes, you are being asked to meet someone that a good friend or loved one thinks you would be interested in, but the element of chance is the same.
Taking A Chance
While I am not advocating accepting blind dates on a regular basis, sometimes it is good to take a chance and roll the dice. To break routine.
Face it, many of us who have been single for awhile definitely fall into a rut when dating. We often have a "type" we go out with. We keep a mental list of qualities in a person we feel are the most compatible with us. Stepping out of your comfort zone to meet someone completely new can be intimidating, but also exciting as well.
The individual chosen for you may be someone you would have never gone out with otherwise. Such an experience can serve to expand your horizons a bit. You might even discover new qualities attractive in a person not considered before.
Consequently, you should always take precautions when meeting someone new. For instance:
- Arrange a telephone call with the person before meeting them face to face. This way you can have an introductory conversation, ask further questions, and assess if you want to pursue a first meeting.
- Instead of dinner or a movie, meet your date for coffee for your initial outing. If the date does not go well, you will not feel obligated to stay because of time and money invested.
- For women, have a friend accompany you, but remain at a discreet distance in case you need her. If this is not possible, let someone know where and what time your date will take place.
Finally, an occasional blind date can add some zest to your love life because you are breaking routine, as well as opening up to new possibilities. Just remember to make it the exception, not the rule, be safe - and have fun!
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