Discover An Uncommon Way To Successfully End A Bad First Date
Terez 
Okay, you read his online profile and it seemed like you two were destined to film your own e-harmony commercial.
You meet at a restaurant and your first date is off to a great start - until he opens his mouth. 20 minutes later you know how fabulous he is because he has told you!
You quickly realize this date is going nowhere fast, but how can you end it gracefully while sending the message that you are no longer interested?
Here is the uncommon strategy most people do not realize works best: Honesty.
Yes, I realize this may seem obvious, but for many people being honest about their true feelings is not the first strategy that leaps to mind.
However, tactfully telling your date you just don't see a future together sends them a clear, unmistakeable message.
On the other hand, using deception may get you out of a bad date, but what is it costing you in terms of your self-respect?
Amazingly, many other relationship experts recommend using deceit and wild schemes to end a bad date.
For example, I recently read an article where the author included tips such as "spill a cold drink in your lap" and "use your child's curfew" as a means to get out of a bad date!
Come on, really?
Here's something else to think about: If you lie to get out of a bad date, you often leave the door open for that person to try again.
For instance, if you feign sickness, they may ask for a rain check for another time. Then the cycle of lies starts all over again.
Being honest keeps everything on the level and allows for a clean break.
Unfortunately, you may not always be able to spare your date's feelings, but most rational people will appreciate the fact that you respected them enough to be completely honest.
More importantly, you will feel better about yourself.
Yes, "honesty is the best policy" may be cliche, but it's a cliche because it's true - and it works best.
So, what are your feelings about the best way to end a bad first date?
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Reader Comments (2)
Absolutely. I think most people are afraid of hurting someone else's feelings, especially if that person really is a great guy or gal; that's why they go out of their way to think of a reason to end the date early other than blaming the other person and making them hurt. But you can do this tactfully! Honesty is the best, as long as it is tactful and kind...but (let's be honest here LOL) it isn't very nice to tell someone that they are just too 'ugly', 'poor', 'uneducated', 'short', 'fat', 'thin'. etc! You can honestly say that you just don't feel a future connection is possible to them - without having to destroy their ego! Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru ... http://tigressluv.com or http://breakuperaser.com
Thanks for your comment Tigress! It's very true that you can be upfront with someone and remain polite and tactful. Yes, having to let someone down easy because the connection just isn't there ( for whatever the reason) is not the most comfortable position to be in. However, the rationale of "sparing the person's feelings," does not justify leading someone to believe things are headed somewhere when they are not. Frankly, that strategy is just unkind - and unfair to all involved.