I think most of us would agree that attaining greater emotional intimacy in our relationships is a good thing. However, the queston remains, how do we achieve it?

Well, let's begn by defining exactly what intimacy means.  According to the Oxford American Dictionary & Thesaurus, intimacy is:

closeness, togetherness, affinity, rapport, attachment, familiarity, friendliness, friendship, amity, affection, warmth, confidence

Sounds good doesn't it?

If you are ready to achieve greater intimacy with your life partner, here are 7 tips that will help guide you down that path:

1. Be More Physical  By being more physical, I am not just speaking of sexual closeness, although that is important. What is also just as important is showing physical affection for your mate in non-sexual ways. For instance when walking together, holds hands.  Routinely give each other back and foot rubs. While having a conversation, caress your partner's shoulder or the small of the back. All of these "little" gestures will pay off in dividends of greater closeness.
2. Respect Each Other's Differences  Even though you and your partner are a couple, you each are unique individuals. It is almost certain that you will have different opinions on many subjects.  Practice seeing things from your mate's point of view.  This does not mean you will agree on everything, but that you respect your partner's perspective.
3. Have The Talk  Discuss with each other openly and honestly what you need and expect from your relationship. Doing so will give you a clear picture of where the other stands.
4. Practice Acceptance  Do not try to change your partner. This error alone is the cause of much conflict in relationships.  Strive to accept your partner for who they truly are versus your ideal.
5. Actively Listen To Each Other   When conversing with your partner,  give them your full attention. Practice making eye contact while listening to what your partner is saying instead of preparing your next response.  In doing this, you will find that your communications with each other will have greater depth and meaning.
6. Familiarize Yourself With Your Own Feelings  Often we are our own worst enemy. This is especially true when it comes to creating intimacy with our partners.  Do you find it difficult to be open with your partner for fear of being judged?  Are you worried that your feelings will be significantly different from your mate?   A way to become more familiar with your feelings is to spend quiet time alone in reflection. Journaling is another great way to accomplish self-discovery.
7. Spend Time Alone Together  This may seem obvious, but with many couples dealing with the responsibilities of dual careers, children, civic duties, etc., time alone can become low on their list of priorities.  It is vital to carve out time when the both of you can shut out the world to focus only on each other.

Do you have your own tips for creating greater intimacy in relationships? If so, please share them with us!