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Monday

Feb062012

What Makes A Relationship Soar?

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Terez

Have you ever observed birds flying high? They seem to effortlessly defy gravity to soar into the blue.

No cares.

No worries.

No burdens.

Being in love can make you feel as though you are flying far above everything too.

But what is it about certain couples who seem to continually ascend to new heights? Why do other couples hit turbulence, and take a nose-dive straight into the ground?

These questions often have complex answers, but there are some common denominators to couples who seem to stay aloft:

1. They are best friends. They truly enjoy each other's company. They confide in each other. They admire and respect each other. They laugh and cry together. While passion is also essential to a successful relationship, it does wax and wane over time. Ultimately, friendship is the bond which holds everything together.

2. Life's adversities brings them closer, not tears them apart. Being in love is easy when there are clear, sunny skies. It's when the storm clouds gather that the bonds between a couple are really tested. What happens if one partner loses a job? Falls seriously ill? Suffers a death in the family? How a couple handles adversity together speaks volumes regarding their chances for going the distance.

3. Couples who soar tend to do so because they feel completely accepted in the relationship. Acceptance creates emotional vulnerability which is essential for real intimacy. However, intimacy's growth can be stunted in an environment filled with judgement, scorn, and harsh criticism.

4. High-flying couples nurture their joy. These couples realize the life-affirming, healing power of joy and laughter. They understand life is too short to take themselves too seriously. They make it a priority to stop and smell those roses. Besides, having a sense of humor is sexy!

5. Their core values complement each other. Soaring couples want similar things out of life. It's very difficult to create a healthy, happy relationship if core values don't fit. For example, one partner doesn't like children, but the other can't wait to start a family - Houston, we have a problem. Having complementary values ensures both partners are on the same page, and headed in the same direction.

These five traits are core characteristics of high-flying relationships, but there are more. What would you add to the list? Why?

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Saturday

Jan282012

Overcoming Heartache - 5 Strategies to cope, heal and thrive

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Terez

I’ve had heartaches, headaches, toothaches, earaches, and I’ve had a few pains in the ass; but I’ve survived to tell about it. – Dolly Parton

Nothing feels quite as exhilarating as falling in love, doesn't it? For days even the highest clouds seem to float far beneath you.

On the other hand, falling out of love can feel as though you have lost all sense of space and direction. The pain can be so intense that all you want to do is make everything stop.

Even though you may feel you will never be whole again, there are ways you can aid the healing of your heart. You will emerge not only restored, but also much stronger on the other side:

Give yourself time to grieve. When serious relationships end, especially abruptly, the emotions you feel are very similar to grief. We all grieve in different ways. Ignore often well-meaning advice to "just get over it," and "get back in the saddle." Take as much time as you need to feel whatever you need to feel.
Tap into your support network. Your friends care about you, and want to help. Let them. They are living, breathing reminders love is still very much present in your life.
Get moving! When going though a difficult time, many of us just want to hibernate in bed and not move - ever. Still, it does help to get some type of physical exercise. It doesn't matter if it's jogging, walking, swimming or dancing, just move. Studies show exercise is not only good for us physically, but it also has many emotional benefits as well.
Shift your perspective. We need to look back to reflect on past relationships in order to learn lessons which can carry us upward and onward. Keeping a journal is a great way to express your feelings, and gain valuable insights. Reading quality relationship books is another effective way to get some much needed perspective.
Laugh! There truly is healing power in laughter. On occasions when the hurt and pain seem to much to endure, watch a favorite comedy film, sitcom or standup comedian. Get together with dear friends and have a blast reminiscing. You will be amazed at how quickly laughter brightens your heart and chases those dark clouds away!